“I beat”

It’s funny (sometimes entertaining, sometimes disrespectful) to watch a series of events that lead to two people having sex and/or developing into a relationship.  The end result is usually a conversation between two friends in which the opening line either expresses complete disregard for feelings or slight euphoria.  The two lines being “Yea, I beat” (or whatever the young kids are saying these days to imply sex) or “I think I’m feeling her”.  The probability of the later coming out a man’s mouth is comparable to the chances of hitting the mega-millions.  I mentioned the process partially on a note I wrote on the book a while ago.  This time I’ll go a little bit more in depth.  Please bear with the numerous sequences of events and mindsets of individuals for it can be very, very disrespectful. 

Let’s say a guy meets a striking young woman in a party who’s with some mutual friends of his.  First thing he does is approach one of those friends and ask who that is.  Once he gets the general information he responds by usually saying “She’s bad”, or my favorite, “Damn”.  Now the gentleman is not shy in nature so he casually eases his way into conversation with her, maybe dances, or gets her another drink.  At this point, he still doesn’t know what can come out of this.  Now the girl, being beautiful, is used to the attention so she doesn’t mind his company, because he is “nice” (that is girltalk code for I think he’s cute and if given the opportunity I would, but I don’t know right now).  LOL.  So time goes on, he sees her again and gets her number.  Women of high caliber don’t want to give out their number without the intent of that person using it.  Of course, he calls and sets up a date.  Time goes on, they are still testing the waters.  No action so far, blueballs sets in.  So finally, she’s at his crib after a wonderful dinner, with a movie on.  Preferably a comedy or a horror one.  It is easier to try to do something when you’re relaxed from laughing or tense from murderous rampages.  They cuddle underneath the blanket and BAM, kiss action.  Nothing happens that night because she “isn’t sure”.  This is where friends start getting involved and shit might get complicated or better.  There is constant nagging from them about their status.  She’s more willing to open up while he still fronts.  At this point, she already has strong feelings but she isn’t sure if it’s reciprocated because he doesn’t show it.  Then one magical night, jungle sounds and fireworks are made.  It is at this point where life-changing decisions are made.  For him, he feels he has a lot to sacrifice but he kind of wants to.  For her, she’s already lost in the sauce.

 It is that first conversation with another friend that determines their next move.  Will he say “I beat” or “I think I’m feeling her.”  Communication is key.